Writer and publisher Betty Irabor wrote on her Instagram account about women in abusive relationships. She share a story about a mother of three whose husband always use abusive words on her. He goes as far as calling her old cargo and at one point tried to strangle her. After publishing the post it got the attention of Toke Makinwa’s ex-husband who allegedly cheated on Toke while they where married. Her ex-husband Maje Ayida said Betty should talk about men in abusive relationship too. Me I don’t know why he said that ooo. Probably he has been in one before. It might be his current girlfriend or his ex-wife Toke.
Here is the full details of the true life story:
As they left, the husband jeered shouting; “old cargo, you and your children will soon come back begging, which man will look at you?” But this young lady had had enough and was determined never to return. She braced up to become a breadwinner and joined her sister in her factory. It was while working in this factory that she met a man(he’d never been married)who fell in love with her and married her along with her 3 children. Old cargo??? So who was chuckling???
Women in abusive relationships face a lot of emotional manipulation which stops them from leaving. They are told they are useless and nobody will look at them. On their own, they are afraid of the unknown world ahead. They worry about the judgement of society and the stigma of being single mothers. The result is they “hang In there” until they they become profile pictures and Internet stories of another woman butchered by her husband.
Every woman in an abusive relationships needs to realize that being married by fire by force is not whAt true marriage is about… It is nothing short of self delusion to manage a bad relationship just to please society. You have to know your worth and believe that you are deserving of more. You are not an old cargo!! There’s life after one bad marriage! Your self worth is not tied to one bad choice you made in a marriage partner. When you have the grace to move on, do move on. You deserve more.
Here is Maje’s reply after the cut: