“Domestic Violence Can Never Be A Woman’s Fault” – Uche Ogbodo Blasts Monalisa Chinda
Actress Uche Ogbodo has insisted that domestic violence can never be the woman’s fault, disagreeing with her colleague Monalisa Chinda who in an interview last week, was of the opinion that women can sometimes provoke men to beat them.
In an interview with NET TV, Ogbodo said: “I disagree with Monalisa. We all have our minds and how we understand certain things. You know they say women talk a lot but not all women talk.
I don’t think she should capitalize on women being the cause of domestic violence because it is not true. First of all, society looks down on women who stay in abusive relationships and pities them for being “helpless” and “weak.”
Domestic violence victims can’t be categorized into a stereotype, but range among all types of women. Yet society places a specific insecure, weak, vulnerable woman into the category of most likely to be in an abusive relationship.
Rather than ridicule or punish the man who commits the abuse, this wrong perception will fault the woman for putting up with it because she possesses these negative traits.
Women are taught that it is our personality “traits” that got us into this problem, and therefore we feel we must solve it. As a result, women are quick to blame themselves for why our significant other is acting so violently.
Tt shouldn’t matter what you do or how you live your life, it is the man’s choice to react in a violent or physical way. As little girls growing up, we learn fast to always be aware and to always be afraid.
Girls are told to dress and act a certain way so as not to upset men, yet boys are not lectured on how to react when angry or treat women respectfully. A man’s anger is equal to his power, try and diminish it and you risk emasculating him.
It is this gender stereotype that makes it easy for women to receive the blame for abusive relationships instead of the man.”